Retreat Party-in-a-Box

Hi! My name is Tess and I am an established author of four books. I am sharing with you my hope, fears, dreams, and my first book, My TESStimony. This inspirational book essentially stemmed from my personal mantra: there is nothing too hard for God. Although now a successful entrepreneur, team builder, civic leader, product specialist, mentor, and educator; I do not have it all. I have combined my life as a businesswoman, mother, and lover of life.

My TESStimony Gift Box is a perfect example that showcases the healing process of my life. I chose the biblical story of the Alabaster Box because it resembles my sentiments Mary intimately conveyed to Jesus. She washed His feet with her hair, tears, and oil which symbolized giving and leaving everything at the feet of Jesus. (Matthew 26:6-13, John 12:1-8, KJV) Everyone stumbles and falls. You just have to keep getting back up again, again, and AGAIN. In this box, I share my past, present, and future. Together, with healed hearts, we can make it. With the help of our loving Savior, we can motivate others and increase joy! What’s in your box?!?

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What’s included in the box: personalized popcorn and tea, My TESStimony Book, My TESStimony Self-Guide Journal, My TESStimony Mug, candles, desk frame, pencil, and my heart.

To purchase my gift box: please email exclusivelybytess@gmail.com

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My TESStimony Retreat Experience

Are you in need of a quick get-away from a hectic lifestyle or work overload? Are you an active listener? Do you feel more comfortable expressing your thoughts and emotions in a smaller group setting? The My TESStimony Retreat Experience is just for you. It’s a 2-hour course for women (only in groups of 10). Click here for past experience pictures: Book Party Women’s Retreat

The purpose of the Retreat Experience is to have young ladies and women feel affirmed and encouraged to grow closer to Jesus. Insightful topics from my autobiography, My TESStimony, will be discussed; of course, not limited to other topics. Each package is for two hours and is based on availability.

What makes the Retreat Experience a small intimate setting different from any other conference or a group gathering? It’s our non-judgmental attitude and our accountability that specializes in assisting women who would like to overcome an issue, addiction, or other tendencies. As young ladies and women, we find support, comfort, and motivation from others who are struggling with similar life circumstances. It has been proven that the female gender freely shares their intimacies and experiences when the climate is conducive to communicate with one another.

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FREE Course on Self-Esteem For Teens

 

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Welcome to TESS University (K-12) where you will discover endless possibilities for your child. You don’t have to go anywhere to take a course from TU. This course is designed to teach children about the concept of self-esteem and the role it plays in having healthy friendships. They will also develop an understanding of how to help enhance self-esteem using positive self-talk.

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While it can be normal for a teenager to lack confidence at times, people with self-esteem issues normally view themselves differently to how others view them.

Low self-esteem can be particularly hard for young people, especially when they’re doing things like starting high school or work, and forming new friendships and relationships. Keep reading to understand self-esteem issues that may come up for your teenager and ways to help your child feel better about themselves and their capabilities.

Why your child’s self-esteem is important

Positive self-esteem for teens is important as it allows them to try new things, take healthy risks and solve problems. In turn, their learning and development will be productive and will set them up for a healthy and positive future. A young person with healthy self-esteem is more likely to display positive behavioral characteristics, such as:

  • acting independent and mature
  • taking pride in their accomplishments/achievements
  • accepting frustration and dealing with it responsibly
  • trying new things and challenges helping others when possible

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Click Here to Enroll in Self-Esteem Course

There are things you can do to support your child to have positive self-esteem, but it’s also important to remember that teenage self-esteem develops and changes quite frequently overtime. If your child doesn’t show signs of positive self-esteem immediately, it doesn’t necessarily mean you’re doing something wrong!

 

My TESStimony Blog Chronicles

With these books, I intend to motivate and inspire those who look like me. I want to help my readers realize that no matter what life throws at you, you can overcome with your personal TESStimony! Use this book as a therapeutic tool to help you restore your life, heal your spirit, and redeem your soul. Through reading along with my personal journey, I want others to discover the pursuit of hope. We can all use hope in our lives. Even the most affluent need hope, because there is always something inside that makes us feel bad, and we can all identify with feeling bad. The good news is that in taking this journey with me, you’ve already begun the healing process.

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Think Bigger

Our fears of ch16 - 1ange, success and failure can make thinking big very difficult to do. We worry about what lies in the future, we stress about not getting things right, and we concern ourselves with worst-case scenarios. People judge what they don’t understand or can’t comprehend. Your BIG ideas and solutions can help change your life, can help change someone else’s life, and as far as you are concerned, they can also help change the world. Not everyone will see things your way, and not everyone will believe what you see; however, this shouldn’t stop you from thinking big and bigger than ever before about your life conditions and circumstances.

In the article “3 Ways Warren Buffet Wants You To Think Bigger”  Warren advises, “You have to be prepared to hear a ‘no’ 99 times and get a ‘yes’ on the 100th time.” THINK BIGGER!

 

 

No Need To Impress ANYONE!

 

ImpressedIt is human nature to want to impress others. However, what many people don’t understand is that any conscious attempt to do so makes you appear rather…well, unimpressive.

Being aware of the fact that you have a tendency to feel the need to impress is the first step to overcoming it. So, congratulations for being vulnerable enough to admit this to yourself.

Step #1: Already accomplished.

Step #2. Show a genuine and sincere interest in others. This is, in my opinion, the most important rule of social interaction and will automatically make you an impressive person.

When you’re having a conversation with someone and the urge strikes to start going on about how great you are, just stop! Put that focus on the other person. Make THEM feel unique/ important/impressive. They will walk away thinking “wow, I feel great… I really liked talking to that guy/girl. What a cool person he/she is!!”

If you are literally making life decisions based on the level of perceived impressiveness, well that’s entirely subjective. It’s impossible to impress everyone since we all have different ideas of what is “impressive.” My advice, in this case, is that perhaps you need to find yourself more impressive because if you indeed are happy with yourself, you wouldn’t feel the need to impress others.

That being said, let’s take this a step further. Try taking notice of people that YOU find impressive. What about them impresses you? Do they blab on about how amazing they are? Probably not. Do they try really hard to be cool? Probably not. Most likely, the reason you’re drawn to them has something to do with how you feel when you’re with them, correct?

Always remember, you have the power to make someone else feel good about themselves. That is the most versatile and powerful tool in your toolbox of coolness, and it always leaves a lasting impression. Try it!

Love Yourself

TESSology Nugget: I have realized that many people have a hard time loving themselves. Here’s the thing: you love in other people what you love in yourself; you hate in other people what you can’t see in yourself or what you desire to have. You don’t have to gossip or belittle others because you aren’t happy or comfortable in your own skin.

When you “love yourself” — which doesn’t mean to necessarily hold yourself in the highest regard, but to see yourself fully and honestly, to take care of yourself, to heal your past, to address your present, to take action where it need be considered — you’re able to love others. It’s just you being in full awareness of who you are.

It’s ok that people will try to bring up your past, call you arrogant, give their opinions on what you should or shouldn’t do, tell you that you’re doing too much, point out subtleties, try and diffuse your greatness, out talk you, can’t be happy with and for you, or just won’t understand you. Don’t seek for anyone’s approval; just love yourself–all of you!

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It’s Ok To Be Different

I’m delighted to highlight my first-born–the writer, illustrator, reporter, and author, Al. Al is often asked if he plays sports because of his height and his family background. At one point, he felt bad that he couldn’t answer that question without having tried at least one sport. He’s played basketball, baseball, soccer, ran track, and swam. Out of all of the sports, he liked and stuck with swimming. Not to mention he’s a great swimmer and the best junior lifeguard there is. (Yes, black boys can swim!) But, being involved in sports is not Al’s forte. He enjoys artistry, graphics, fine arts, writing, cartoonist, and video game design. He wants to create a graphics and art design firm.

Finally finding his niche, Al joined Sparkman High School’s journalism class and became the illustrator and reporter for the Crimson Crier Newspaper. I’m so glad that he’s understanding his worth and value as a black Christian teen after being bullied at the age of twelve. As parents, we have to do a lot of building self-esteem and self-worth, instilling greatness, praying and speaking positivity into his life, and encouraging him that he can do whatever he wants to do. No parent wants their child to be bullied or to be the bully. It’s really disheartening to hear and see your child wanting to give up on life because he’s DIFFERENT and not feeling like he belonged in certain groups.

Al has accepted that he doesn’t have to be what people want him to be or what they think he should be. Write on, Al. You rock! To purchase Al’s book click here: Al’s Book #blackboysrock #Classof2017

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